This post is largely inspired by the great stoic philosopher Seneca on traveling. We has human beings always tend to want to be in control of everything around us. It gives us a sense of safety in a way, that if we are in control of our reality, then we are safe. When it comes to emotional well being, we tend to get into really grey areas of life because there are not set rules. Everything is circumstantial and what may be the correct response for one situation and one point in time may be an incorrect response in another situation of the same nature.
So there are a few things that I would like to expand on a little to clear my own head.
- Giving up control to trying to change others or circumstances.
- Distractions (travel in this instance) does not guarantee emotional well being.
- Being honest with yourself.
Giving up control to trying to change others or circumstances.
Last night I had the pleasure of discussing this topic with a few wonderful ladies about what it means to be in good relationship with one another. This lead me to re-think some of the tricks that I have learned over my own journey to my way to happiness. Most of them comes from the stoic theme of be self content.
And it sounds a lot easier said then done (and in some cases it really is tough self work.)
Now I’m not saying it is cake… but i’ll get to that in a moment. Here however is what I want to talk a little bit about:
- Being self content through self love.
- Dropping your ideas about others to set them free.
- Letting go of your ideas about you to set you free.
I’m just like anyone else, trying my best to work on bettering who I am as a person. When it comes to emotional resilience, it can be a real struggle because there are a lot of things that tend to get in the way of dealing with our life events. What I’ve learned through my journey of emotional alchemy is that there are some key principles that can allow the process of the heart to open in ways that can bypass logic (most of the time it has to.) which allows us to fully integrate an experience, surrender, and let it go. Here are the things I’m going to talk about.
- Dropping the idea that our thoughts are important.
- Focusing more on emotion then on thought.
- How to Incorporate this emotional alchemy into everyday life.
- Meditation of the heart to emotional well being.