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The Secret To Accepting Yourself


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When I began to really see emotional alchemy take hold of me, there was an overall theme that seemed to emerge from every interaction that I had with each person in my life. It painted my personal skys with beautiful hues of colors. Now I won’t say that this kind of process or secret is exactly easy to swallow because there are times where I felt like I couldn’t keep going. Now I see that those were just old ways of thinking dying so that new ways of living could emerge and saturate my life.

I learned through emotional alchemy that accepting yourself is key to having any healthy lasting related-ness with anyone.

It is not about how much intelligence you have (although this helps in communication) but about the quality of what you know. In this instance, it is how well you know who you authentically are. And then getting rid of all of that stuff that everyone has told you who you are for years.

How does this form of seeing help you into accepting yourself?…

Well when we begin to take stock of whether these conditioned beliefs inside are actually useful to us, is when we actually begin to take responsibility for our own lives. We can then begin to let emotional alchemy do it’s magic and begin to change these things or allow them to dissolve if they are no longer useful.

By simply asking the question, “Is this true about me?”

And it may be on something small but may cause some stress in your life. When stress bubbles up it’s typical from an idea we have about life that doesn’t quite match up with what is actually going on in that moment. So by seeing this and accepting that this is the way things are and that we are indeed stressed due to the way we are or feel about something allows for the opportunity for transformation.

How To Apply Emotional Alchemy To Practical Life

So here is the way in which I directly put it into my everyday interactions. Whenever a conflict comes up, I first take a look at what belief I have that is causing this uneasiness. Whether it’s an idea about a situation, or a past experience about something. And then I evaluate it in terms of if that belief is true at this current moment. Because remember, we are always in a constant state of change.

To put an ever changing moment in a stagnant idea that we have is always bound to cause human suffering or stress in our life. It will always keep us from accepting ourselves completely in moment to moment interactions. By accepting how we feel right now and seeing that our ideas are causing this feeling will slowly allow us to slow down the momentum of that thought we are holding onto (and eventually let go).

We owe no thought an obligation of clinging, if it no longer serves our emotional well being. Feel free to let it go in place of a better more convenient idea or belief that DOES suite your emotional well being. Eventually you will no longer need the crutch of that old belief. This is emotional alchemy at its’ finest.

Don’t forget to check out my eBook  Emotional Alchemist on kindle if you like the type of content from above.